We are all guilty of making judgments based on quick glances and on their actions before we even get to know them. It’s a social faux-pas, and yet that does not stop us in the least. We’ve been conditioned to behave in a certain way, but no matter how hard we try to drill into our brains to not be judgmental, we still judge. Why? I think it is a part of our instinct that our over-reaching intellect has not been able to completely squash down. Think about it, I mean REALLY think about it. When we enter a new environment, we are vulnerable. So in order to feel safe and secure, we quickly determine what and who are safe based on judgment. It’s called being street smart, knowing your surroundings and responding to them accordingly. So there is indeed a method to the madness.
However, judgments become problematic when it is not used as a survival mechanism, but instead used as a tool to belittle and socially segregate another person. Yes, this is indeed a problem.
Instead of making this personal I want to make this post more relatable to you, the readers (hence the editing). As I said before, judgments become a problem when they severely hinder another person, intentionally segregating them. It is my belief that judgments affect people more who belong to a collective, whether that be a religious, cultural, or other such strong affiliation. This is because we interact with them (affiliated community) on a regular basis. They, in turn, interact with the other people within the collective. However, the danger lies when they are influential. Their intent might be to dissuade the one “bad egg” from spoiling the rest. But, I believe that these people need to approach this in a different way. Rather than spreading malicious rumours -which will only hurt your cause-, show the collective’s strength by welcoming them with open arms. It might be difficult to fathom how this will help, but look at it this way. They won’t turn away from the collective, thus becoming comfortable which could result in a behavioural change. We learn about it in history, when conquering Europeans conform to the native village they were sent to infultrate or were captured by (… and no I’m not talking about the movie Pocahontas!). So is being judgmental even worth your energy?
Before I stray from the core subject of this post, I will conclude with this. Judgment does have its merit, but at what point does it become overwhelming and cruel?