We all have them. Those nagging and sometimes unrealistic expectations that plague our lives. They are so ingrained in how we perceive the world around us that we are sometimes clueless to their impact. We want to make others happy and be deemed important to others. So, how do we manage to pull this off? By managing our own expectations and the expectations of others. It is a constant struggle of either nurturing our flights of fancy, or the cold hard facts of life. Many encourage dreaming, discouraging the constant red lighting that occurs when dreams get out of hand. But, at what cost? Dreaming is how you start your journey to success, but you also have to know when to apply the breaks, taking into account the expectations of others and the reality of what you want to accomplish.
Let’s be honest ladies, we are so guilty of having insane expectations, especially when it comes to romantic relationships. We want to make our significant others the ideal Romeos, when all they really want to do is plop themselves down in front of the television and watch sports. We want to be showered with phrases like “I love you”, or be given flowers on, at least, a weekly basis. God forbid they forget a hallmark event in the relationship. That’s what we expect of them. That, and of course we want bragging rights among our girlfriends: “He did what?! *swoons* You are soooo lucky!”. That is just one of the many examples where expectations sneak their way in, making you loose focus on what really matters. All I’m suggesting is to be a little more realistic. Real life is not Hollywood.
It is about compromise, finding that balance of fulfilling your dreams but in a realistic way. Heck, I was hoping to finish Steve Jobs’s Bio today so I could write about it, but clearly I was -expecting- too much! (haha, get it!? I know, I’m hilarious!)